We strongly recommend you keep married mentees with married mentees and single mentees with single mentees. Why? They have their energy focused in different places. Most single people want to be married or married again. And married people have their energy focused on being married. It’s easy for the single mentees to become projects for the married ones.
Because you have limited time with your mentees and you don’t want to be talking about each issue from both the married and single perspective and having to keep track of and discuss different homework assignments for each group.
The same applies to divorced mentees. Unless they are still pretty young and weren’t married for long, it’s best to keep them in a group together as they are facing different issues from both the marrieds and the never-marrieds.
The caveat can be if you have spiritually mature and life mature singles, they can often work in a group with married mentees. We know this can be challenging for smaller churches that are working with a smaller pool of potential mentees, but as best you can, we suggest keeping them separate. It’s okay to alternate seasons, doing one group for marrieds and the next for singles. And if you have to mix, just be smart about how you do it.
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